EOM Equals End of Mannners

by Lydia Ramsey on February 20, 2012

A few days ago I came across an article  suggesting ways to make email more efficient and less time-consuming.  Sound like a good idea? Who doesn’t want to spend fewer hours sorting through email, trying to decide which to open first, what to do next and when?  The author of this particular article suggested that to abbreviate the process you could simply compress the entire message into the subject line. Then you add the acronym “EOM” at the end of the line. An example might be, “Tomorrow’s Book Festival Cancelled. EOM”  There you are. Done in seconds.  In case you don’t know, “EOM” stands for “End of Message.”  In my opinion “EOM” signifies “End of Manners.”

I have a couple of issues with sending a message like this.  While I totally  agree that email should be brief and to the point, and I stress that point during my business etiquette courses, I believe this suggestion takes email etiquette to a new low. Putting the message in the subject line might be fine between friends, but it is not appropriate for business email.

In my courses on email etiquette I remind the participants that email represents them professionally the same as the handshake they offer, the clothes they wear and the greeting on their voice mail.  You are sending email, not a text message.

  1. Write a pertinent subject line such as ‘Tomorrow’s Book Festival Cancelled.’”
  2. Begin with a greeting to the person or persons to whom you are sending the message.
  3. In the body of the email you might say, “Tomorrow’s book festival cancelled. We will get back to you later with more details. In the meantime, call me if you have any questions.”
  4. Use a professional closing, your name and your contact information.
  5. Avoid acronyms. Not everyone knows what “EOM” stands for.

It may take a few minutes longer to type that message, but it shows respect for your recipients and makes you look like a polished professional, not some high school sophomore.

 

 

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Why American Kids are Brats

by Lydia Ramsey on February 17, 2012

Earlier this week Time magazine  published an article titled “Why American Kids are Brats.” The article was inspired by the newly-published book, Bringing Up Bébé: One American Mother Discovers the Wisdom of French Parenting by Pamela Druckerman.  The book has created quite a storm since the Wall Street Journal wrote an adaptation of it that they called “Why French Parents are Superior.”    While I don’t want to get into a lengthy discussion about whether American kids are brats and French parents are superior, I do think it is worth noting that on the whole French children are better behaved and more respectful than their American counterparts.

As the writer for the Times points out, French children are more polite and better socialized.  They learn at an early age that other people have feelings, too. They do not demand nor do they expect to always get their way.

I think there are lessons for all of us to learn from the book and the articles.  Good manners and proper behavior should be taught at a young age so that people grow up with a mindset that others should be valued and treated with courtesy. That is the premise of all my business etiquette courses. If you want to be a successful, you need to have respect for others and you need to demonstrate it.

I sometimes wonder if there would be a need for business etiquette training at all if parents did a better job of parenting. As it is, that job now falls to trainers like me who teach business etiquette and protocol to pass it on to those who missed basic manners when they were children.

 

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